Question 1 of 7
Have you ever displayed an angry outburst at work, such as shouting, banging your desk or slamming doors?
Yes. When I'm frustrated with myself or others, it often shows.
Never. I'm composed and extremely professional at all times.
No. It's important to me that people feel I'm easy to connect with, so I try my best to avoid behaviors that may be off-putting to others.
No. I want to express a lot but I'm waiting for the right time, and figuring out the right way to express it.
No. I don't struggle with managing anger, but I can struggle with impulse control. I'll share a series of new ideas in a meeting, for example, without thinking them through.
Question 2 of 7
Which of the below is most likely to bother you?
Observing that the people around you aren't performing at the highest standard possible.
Going on a vacation with no itinerary.
When you know someone doesn't like you.
You've decided you want to paint your living room. You're given a color wheel of 50 paint options and told you need to pick a color in the next ten minutes.
Being told you can only focus on one goal for the next six months.
Question 3 of 7
Which statement best describes you?
I impose extremely high standards on those around me. I can be punitive with others when they don't meet my standards.
I'm reliable, highly organized and I love planning. I sometimes get the sense that other people experience me as 'uptight.'
I get frustrated that other people's opinions and feelings towards me matter to me. I often feel needy because I want the deepest connections possible.
I get frustrated with my indecisiveness. I wish I could allow myself to be a little more impulsive about taking clear action towards my goals.
I love the rush of momentum at the start of a new project - I feel unstoppable in the beginning! But I struggle to stay focused when I get distracted by other passions.
Question 4 of 7
If someone were giving you praise, they'd be most likely to say…
That you're great at being direct and keeping razor sharp focus on the goal at hand.
That you're great at doing exactly what you say you will do, exactly when you say you will do it, in the exact way you're expected to do it.
That you're great at engendering meaningful connections with others.
That you're great at preparing, asking smart questions and considering alternative scenarios.
That you're great at imagining possibilities, getting inspired and generating ideas.
Question 5 of 7
Which statement best describes you?
I get frustrated by others' inefficiency and lack of focus. I don't care if other people like me, I want to get the job done.
I consider it somewhat offensive when people make adjustments to the structure and timeline of anything (a meeting, a dinner, a vacation, etc.). We should be able to make one plan and stick to it.
I spend more energy than I want wondering what people think of me.
I know I have a lot more to offer than I'm currently offering (in my relationships, at work, in my community, etc.) but I can't unleash my full potential until I take care of a few things first.
I'm always resisting the urge to do things like purchase domain names for businesses I want to start. I have more ideas than I could ever know what to do with.
Question 6 of 7
I've received feedback along the lines of:
Being mean, "intense," or intimidating.
Not being spontaneous enough, being too rigid.
Being too much of a people pleaser.
Not taking enough risks, being too indecisive.
Being disorganized, scatter-brained or poor at following through on commitments.
Question 7 of 7
It's most meaningful to me…
When someone follows through on what they said they were going to do, when they said they were going to do it, and to the level of quality I expect.
That I'm able to offer myself and others stability through routine, structure and predictability.
When another person works to understand who I am as a person, and why what matters to me matters to me.
That I enter into new opportunities (relationships, jobs, everyday decisions) as prepared and as sure of my decisions as possible. I don't want to commit unless I'm highly confident it's the right choice.
That I lead a passionate life where I entertain as many opportunities as possible to create new projects, develop new skills, travel, grow and continue exploring.